Little updates and something for the 2 of you

24 Jan 2008, Saturday

Looking back at the past few weeks, got abit of mixed feelings. On one hand, i'm quite satisfied with the amount of reading i'd done, i read 2 books that i'd borrowed early this month ("Eragon", and "Chronicles of Ancient Darkness". After finishing Eragon, i then bought (and also read) the series of The inheritance cycle - Eragon, Eldest, and Brisingr - because all of the copies of Eldest and Brisingr in the libraries' were either on loan or on queue, so i tot might as well buy the whole series since i really enjoyed the first. It's funny, cos originally i only wanted to borrow Lord of the Rings but couldn't find it, and then i happened to stumble upon the above mentioned books so i snapped them up instead.

At work, was a very unhappy Dec and early Jan preparing and going thru the audits. And then somehow i had to endure some injustice at work. Then on the day of my first lesson of the sem, something happened that caused a rift between my brother and myself, and causing distress to mum in the process. So in that sense it was really bad...

For the rest of the past week though, things seem to have picked up. Was on course at work and the mood there was generally quite relaxed and light due to upcoming CNY. Finally got some holiday mood after so long!!!!!!! Played Mahjong last night and basketball today noon with friends, and i really enjoyed everything! It's great to be having fun and also play some form of sport after not exercising for so long, though i'd have preferred to play soccer. Well, that's a start anyway!!

Somehow last night got abit involved in a quarrel between a pair of my couple friends. At first, i'd taken sides with one of them because of the consequences leading to the quarrel, which was quite unfortunate (shit the bloody boss) and probably abit brainless of the other party, but then something happened afterwards that totally swayed my "loyalties" to the other side.

For 2 of you
It's one thing to throw a tantrum or what, which most people do when they're upset and angry, and quite another to decide on doing unpleasant things like threatening to make a scene at someone else's place at that time just because you're feeling vengeful or you're not willing to feel miserable while the other party, under your presumption, is "immersed in having fun". For your info, that person arrived in quite a sad mood and wasn't even able to concentrate on playing. That's what you wanted, issit? I'll be so honest as to let you know that it took me all of my resolve to prevent myself from scolding you over the phone when you told me the "choices" you gave to the other person, if there actually was any. It was really inconsiderate and unreasonable. If you really love or hold any amount of care or respect for the other party, you should never attempt to hurt that person, or give unreasonable demands like that. When you seek to hurt, there's only hate, not love. Both of you need to be more mature in the way you communicate and do things. I loathe to advise people, especially friends, to break up. But IF the other person is really everything you cannot tolerate, be it level of commitment or sensitivity or the person's preferences in everyday life like meeting friends or whatever, then go ahead and do so. When people get into relationships, it doesn't mean they will or must definitely be together for life - they learn more about each other everyday, even if they dun notice - because human beings change all the time, albeit slowly, due to all kinds of reasons like new environments, friends, hobbies, whatever, and then they decide if that person is right for them at some point. Since i seem to only notice suffering in your relationship, then maybe it's time to move on. People enjoy long and lasting relationships through giving and loving each other; the experiences and time spent together are gifts, not obligations.
No one is obligated to entertain.
No one is obligated to give in to demands.
No one is obligated to spend time with anyone else.
No one is obligated to tame the resentments of anybody else.
Like i say, any of these things, if they're given or done, are gifts, not obligations. That's why people are happy when they receive them, and why i say there's no point in demanding them. If as i know you're still attending churches, then i would say this - Unreasonable demands and vengefulness are not the ways of the lord - it spreads enmity and distrust, not acceptance and love, and it won't get you anywhere near what you want, though it's probably funny for a non-christian like me to be saying this (edit: Not written in spite.. but just to clarify that i'm not a Christian... therefore sounds funny/weird for me to say "the lord" or what. Sorry for the poor english). Happiness would never come to you by hurting one another or being vengeful. Think. I dun care if from this point onwards you condemn me or what, but i shall admit that i am absolutely furious and angry with you now, and rightly so. I'm not obligated to be friendly - it's my right to do whatever i deem fit. I'm writing this to both of you because as a friend, i care for you, and it bugs me to see you on the verge of displaying inappropriate behaviour without any regard for the consequences and consideration for other people.